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A Spoonful of Parental Happiness to Start My Day

By Yvette Vignando - 21st September 2010

Sometimes it's the briefest moment in the day that counts when you are a parent with a child. This morning Mr 8 leapt into bed with me (in his dress-up bow-tie and tails outfit teamed with pyjama pants) and reminded me that he wants to own a necktie. Mr 8 is our youngest so I am savouring every childish, imaginative moment with him (well, every moment except for the times that I'm so busy that I foolishly forget the gift of just 'being' with a child).

Having the time to lie in bed with Mr 8 and hear him passionately explain how cool he would look in a tie, where we could go shopping for a tie, what colour tie would look best with the only collared shirt he owns and how fabulous he'd look wearing it to his grandmother's birthday party - it just made my day somehow. And the day had only just started. I lay there looking at his animated face talking about the intricate details of his desired necktie and I fell in love with him again and again. I know that sounds a bit over the top - but aren't these the very moments that often stand out for you in the day - when you take the time to really give your full attention to what your child is saying?

Like every other parent, I can't always achieve this level of mindfulness and attention. I get distracted. I get overwhelmed by my daily to-do list that was unachievable in the first place. I have to share my time around with our other two gorgeous boys. And sometimes I get cranky.

But this morning's 10 minute reverie about a necktie was a simple and sweet reminder about the power and emotional fuel that comes from a brief moment of undivided attention with a child.

Do you have examples of these simple moments that fill your parental - emotional fuel tank during the day? Please do share them.

image freedigitalphotos.net Simon Howden

Comments (4)

Suit Boy

That's such a sweet vignette.
I find that mornings are the best times to have these moments. They wake up so fresh and happy, playing together. There are many times when I see my boys doing funny, crazy, imaginative things somewhere in the house- playing Lego or at the kitchen sink. On these days, the rush to get to school at 9am is illogical. They'd be better off staying in their play for a couple of hours.
Next time I'll take them late and write on the late note, "playing."
I'm looking forward to seeing Suit Boy in the suit he might be getting for his birthday (not his birthday suit of course).
I also have a little one like Carol who loves to stroke soft things such as skin. One day we walked past a pile of sand and stroked the softness of it.
If we could collect all the precious imaginative energy of children, it would be bright enough to light up the world.
Frances

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Precious stones

I love these moments. My boys are both big chatters, so we talk about a lot of stuff, a lot of the time. Sometimes I'm busy and find it annoying, but I try really hard to listen and take notice. They're only little and talking about their imaginary friends and their 'wonderings' for such a small amount of time. I am proudly wearing my new necklace of coloured straw and wire, made by Mr3, and presented to me as though it were precious stones. Which it is.

Thank you!!

What a beautiful post and a perfect reminder to savour those moments. I had one tonight...my 5 yo (who should have been in bed) ran over to my spot on the sofa, opened his mouth wide and breathed into my face! He wanted to show me that he'd brushed his teeth without our nagging - and the incredible joy on his face at having done that was priceless. Perfect end to the day :)

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moments

Oh there are many ... and sometimes we don't really absorb them in the rush. But one of my favourite, heartsquishing moments with Mr 7 is at night when he climbs into bed with me (with his assorted 'buds' - written about previously but which now number FOUR) ... and as he drops off to sleep he reaches out his warm soft little hand and strokes me. He does this so unselfconsciously as a parent strokes an infant.

My heart turns to goo and I realise what a wonderful man he is going to become.

Even though sometimes he tries to kill his brother.

:)

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